If you’ve ever canceled plans and felt a weird sense of peace afterward, congratulations! You aren’t lazy; you have a brain.
This video dives into the mind-bending delight some people, like I do, take in never leaving the house. Turns out “staying in” is less laziness and more a lifestyle rooted in neurochemistry, social anxiety, and a profoundly healthy skepticism about everyone else outside. From ancient hunter-gatherers to 21st-century hermits with Wi-Fi, it turns out “Screw you guys, I’m going home!” is a psychological profile, not a punchline.
The video, which explores the motivations of homebodies of all stripes, suggests that people who genuinely prefer staying at home aren’t ignoring the world; they’re wired to seek predictable environments, low social friction, and the sweet dopamine hits of comfort over chaos. Psychology, neuroscience, and everyday experience show that retreating indoors isn’t a moral lapse; introversion benefits some minds more than others.
Maybe the video is just giving me an excuse to cancel plans, but I like it.
as someone who has more than a couple of times been accused of being an agoraphobic, i'll gormlessly accept this as validation - thankew very much. (even to the extent that when i read Asimov about planet Solaria [1] i thought it sounded potentially 'heavenly'
[1] https://asimov.fandom.com/wiki/Solaria )
Rather than having a binary choice of introvert or extrovert, I like, and fit, the concept of "otrovert."
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Introverts tend to turn inward, finding large social settings tiring.
Extroverts seek outward connection, feeling most alive in groups.
Otroverts are not bound to either pattern. Socializing doesn’t drain them like it might an introvert, nor does it necessarily excite them like it might an extrovert. Instead, they exist parallel to social life, engaging when it feels authentic but remaining self-powered at all times."
https://www.freejupiter.com/meet-the-otrovert-a-new-personality-type-that-may-describe-you-better-than-anything/